Adam Carolla: Change Your Life
Iíd like to talk about ĎEmotional Growthí, aka ĎChangeí, the greatest part about being a human being that we completely ignore. If you think about it, every other species on the planet is unable to change. Polar bears, they canít change. Actually, you can ask. No, you know what, donít bother. Theyíll eat you.
I mean, really. Nothing else on the planet can change but us. We can change. Itís the greatest thing about being a human being, yet we squander it every single day. How many people do you know that are exactly the same as they were in high school? And by the way thatís always bad. Even if you were good in high school, not changing is bad. But most of the people I know started off bad. And whatever habits they had, good or bad, or idiosyncratic behavior, theyíre taking it straight to the grave.
The only way you can change (and believe you me, everybody around you wants you to change in some way, shape, or form -- thatís the sad part). The only way you can change is through internalizing.
The way you internalize is, just about everything that happens in your life, you make yourself responsible. And itís easy to do -- itís painful to do, itís rarely done, but hereís how you do it.
Letís just say I wanted some FroYo. And by the way, how lazy are we that we canít even say ĎZení and ĎGurtí. Letís just I wanted some frozen yogurt. And I got in my car, and I went up the street, and I went to the frozen yogurt place, and it was closed. Now, I could pound on the glass and throw my hands up to the heavens and scream "WHY?" Itís noon. Itís Tuesday. Itís the middle of the summer. You guys should be open. This is an outrage.
Or, I can think, "You know what? I should have called first."
Because the only way I can get anything out of this experience is by turning it to myself and on myself and internalizing. And Iím not saying Iím a bad man or should be incarcerated for not calling them first. But if I can get into the habit of making almost everything my Ė not fault Ė but responsibility, then I can use what was a wasted trip across town into a learning experience. Whether itís riding a motorcycle with no helmet or going to the FroYo place and finding itís not open, you are the first person that makes that decision.
And if youíre going to blame your teachers, meaning I got an ĎFí because they donít like me. Or youíre going to blame your girlfriend or boyfriend because "they donít listen", "they donít understand", "every guy I meet is in love with himself and never listens". Well whatÖ every guy you meet. Whatís the one constant in this equation?
Well, that would be YOU.
So please find a mirror and start looking into it.
Change as a human being should not be something we shun. It should be something we embrace. And it is humbling, and it doesnít feel good. But itís the greatest gift we have as human beings.
Again, salamanders and koala bears Ė although what would you change about a koala bear, theyíre so squeezable, those guys Ė they donít have a choice! We can go from unemployable, horrible, uneducated to Godís gift to humanity with just a little something called change and first internalizing.
Iím Adam Carolla for Prager University.